chapter leaders

Welcome! I am Amy Balentine. I am a follower of Christ, a wife to Adam, and a mother to Teddy, Simon, Thomas, Peter and Goldie and Founder of You Made Me Mom and group leader of the Kansas City chapter. This support group is a result of my experiences with my children who made me mom, but also our Lord, Jesus Christ, who ultimately made me mom.  

Amy Balentine

founder  kansas city, mo group leader

In October 2012, I gave birth to our first child, Theodore (Teddy) Boyd. He is so wonderful. In May 2014, I gave birth to our second child, Simon Adam, who lived 7 glorious days and 22 grace-filled minutes. He died on May 21, 2014. Simon had full Trisomy 13 - typically a life-limiting diagnosis. In November 2014, I gave birth to our third child, Thomas Job. Thomas went to be with our Lord at 13 weeks gestation. I birthed his body via induction and we were able to set eyes on his magnificent body. In September 2015, I gave birth to our fourth son, Peter Simon. He brings us much joy and happiness. In August 2017, I gave birth to our fifth child, our first baby girl, Marigold (Goldie) Joy. Goldie adds a sweetness to our family we didn't know we were missing. In May 2020, I miscarried our sixth child at 5 weeks gestation after trying for over a year to grow our family.

To read more about my family's story, visit my family's blog or click on the links below to navigate directly to the related story.

 

HannahWeiland

milford, in group leader

Hello! I’m Hannah Weiland, wife to Josh, mama to sweet Charlie and three precious ones in heaven. We live in northern Indiana where my husband pastors a church and I work part-time for a missions organization.

 

In the fall of 2014 we learned we were pregnant with our first child. After only a couple weeks however, we knew something was wrong. At 7 weeks we went in for an ultrasound and learned I had an ectopic pregnancy. We were quickly sent to the hospital for emergency surgery and we were devastated.

By the following spring we learned we were pregnant again and in December 2015 welcomed our son Charlie. He is a true miracle and such a blessing in our lives.

 

In the summer of 2017, we found out we were expecting again and were so excited to grow our family. At 8 weeks I began experiencing symptoms similar to my first pregnancy and during an ultrasound confirmed another ectopic pregnancy. We were blindsided and couldn't believe we were facing this again. Surgery immediately followed and we were told our chances of conceiving naturally in the future would be ever more difficult, though not impossible.

 

The spring of 2018 brought new life and we were cautiously hopeful for a healthy, lasting pregnancy. During a routine check-up at 13 weeks however, we learned we had lost another sweet one. 

 

While we would never choose this road, this is our story and we trust that God is walking closely with us through the pain and heartache. Our future with more children is very much in his hands and we are leaning into his direction each day. 

 

During what can be an incredibly isolating and confusing time, I’m honored to be able to walk alongside other women as they navigate the days, weeks, and months following loss. 

Nicole Lauer

witchita, ks group leader

Hi! I’m Nicole Lauer, wife to Brian and mommy to Kade and Kinsley. We reside in Wichita, Kansas. On January 4th, 2018, we found out I was pregnant with our first baby, Kade. We were so excited and quickly began getting things ready for his arrival. However, on April 11th at work, where I am a first grade teacher, I knew something wasn’t right. I left school immediately and met my husband at the hospital. Six days later, with a terrible infection that caused me to go into premature labor at 20 weeks, I gave birth to Kade at 2:30am. It was the most physically painful and emotional thing I have ever had to do.

We were told Kade would only survive a minute or two once I gave birth. But, God gave us 99 beautiful minutes with him. Kade was so healthy and he was so strong. Kade passed away in my arms, surrounded by his daddy, all of his grandparents, and his uncle at 4:09am. I will never forget how perfect he was. I will never forget when I saw him take his final breath. He weighed 9.5 oz and was 9.5 inches long. I will forever be thankful that God let us meet our baby boy and spend time with him before he was called Home.

The night before the one year anniversary of Kade’s birth and death, his little sister, Kinsley was born at the same hospital. My pregnancy with her was anything but easy. Weekly progesterone shots given by my husband, weekly trips to see the high risk doctor, and a scary infection that led me to be hospitalized for a few days were just part of my experience. I ended up having an emergency c-section and I remember praying that Kinsley would arrive safely. I was terrified and full of anxiety throughout my pregnancy and the night of her arrival. I am thankful to say that she’s thriving and is the sweetest, cuddliest baby! God is good!

I feel incredibly honored that I get to walk with other brokenhearted mommas, pray with them, and develop a community here in Wichita that helps other bereaved mothers navigate through this horrible loss.

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